When I say I'm a switch I usually mean that I submit to men, dominate women, and negotiate depending on the situation with anyone non-binary. I never wanted to dominate a man. Not long ago the mere suggestion would have gotten a laugh out of me.
My lennán and I, though, had been experimenting with our dynamic. I was more willing to at least try to dominate him from time to time even though I preferred to submit or go at it as lusty equals. It was a delightful challenge to explore that. I thought we had the perfect Balance going on.
Until I realized we didn't. Something was off. That rattled me and I had to draw back a dite and have some thinky-thoughts. It didn't take me long to figure it out.
He's a switch, too. He has a deep need to submit occasionally. But in his household he's the Dom. Nobody could top him... but me.
OK like seriously, you just described me and Clarence.
Clarence very, very, very occasionally needs to submit. He has only ever allowed me and Jarod to dominate him, and me to top him (there is a difference between the two, and all I will say is he doesn't bottom for anyone else). This has only happened occasionally, he is otherwise very dominant, but once in a great while, usually when he's feeling more broken, he needs to be able to let go.
So yeah, even though I crave submission, sometimes that for me means service topping him, and giving him what he needs. Which means being rewarded when he goes back into dom mode. XDDDDDDDDDD
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My lennán and I, though, had been experimenting with our dynamic. I was more willing to at least try to dominate him from time to time even though I preferred to submit or go at it as lusty equals. It was a delightful challenge to explore that. I thought we had the perfect Balance going on.
Until I realized we didn't. Something was off. That rattled me and I had to draw back a dite and have some thinky-thoughts. It didn't take me long to figure it out.
He's a switch, too. He has a deep need to submit occasionally. But in his household he's the Dom. Nobody could top him... but me.
OK like seriously, you just described me and Clarence.
Clarence very, very, very occasionally needs to submit. He has only ever allowed me and Jarod to dominate him, and me to top him (there is a difference between the two, and all I will say is he doesn't bottom for anyone else). This has only happened occasionally, he is otherwise very dominant, but once in a great while, usually when he's feeling more broken, he needs to be able to let go.
So yeah, even though I crave submission, sometimes that for me means service topping him, and giving him what he needs. Which means being rewarded when he goes back into dom mode. XDDDDDDDDDD